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The days after Christmas are some of my favorite. They seem a little slower, feel a little longer and there is an excitement in the air for the coming year.
I spend a lot of time reflecting on the previous year and planning for the year ahead. I haven’t been as active on my social media for this reason and it’s been refreshing.
I typically read a few books during this time and I decided to re-read the miracle morning yesterday. I love my morning and night routines I have set over the years but I needed to recommit and start fresh.
Connor, my two year old, got really sick the past few days so we were up most of the night cleaning and comforting. I laugh at the irony that I was up super early but it was not a ‘miracle morning’.
I am learning to find patience in this season and feel gratitude instead of frustration. Typically by this time in the new year I already have a clear vision and a written plan.
But not today.
And I’ve decided that’s ok.
I’m taking this year slow and I am giving myself some grace to imagine my dreams, set my word for the year and finish my goal setting.
If you are a little behind or are struggling with your vision for 2019, know you are not alone.
BUT there is one thing that has been on my heart for a few weeks and I knew it would be one of my goals in 2019. I don’t really have a “name” for it so for now I am calling it “52 meals”.
With my job as a destination wedding planner, I get the opportunity to connect to a lot of women from all over the world. From CEO’s to homeschool moms, I have found that one of the things we all have in common is we are individually trying to be the best version of ourselves in the season we are in. As women, we naturally juggle many roles but as we strive to be the best we can in each of them, we often find ourselves doing the complete opposite of what we set out to do.
We tend to always put others needs before our own self care. We invest in others sometimes at the expense of our own dreams. We cheer loudly for those that make progress but are quick to judge our own success. We don’t ever ask for help.
I know many of you are reading that list and are nodding your head.
Believe me, I do these things too.
But there is a way out of this and I want to let you in on the secret that I have learned over the past few years.
Drum roll please.
We need each other.
What? That’s it. That’s the secret?
It’s pretty simple mama.
WE NEED EACH OTHER.
We need to help each other put our own self care first. We need to encourage each other to invest in ourselves. We need to cheer loudly for each other but also for our accomplishments no matter how small. We need to give ourselves and each other grace. Lots of grace. We need to ask for help but more importantly we need to be more thoughtful and seek out our sisters.
This is what has been put on my heart for 2019.
So what does “52 Meals” look like?
Honestly I am not sure.
All I know is that I felt like I should find a way to connect with my tribe of women this year and for some reason “meals” kept coming to the surface.
I am not a great cook, but I am pretty darn good at meal planning so I am taking this talent and adding one more meal each week.
Each week I am going to deliver a meal to a friend.
This will not be a fancy dinner or long conversations over a delightful meal.
This is simple.
A simple act of service that has been put on my heart and a way to serve the women around me. I might get a hug at the door, I might drop it on the porch and run (in my church we call this a ‘drive by’) or I foresee a crazy week or even traveling and I might just have to send a gift card.
Either way, I am committing to one meal a week.
One meal a week for another mama who is working hard to be the best version of herself and just needs an extra hand, a high five and the love of another mom who is cheering her on.
As a busy working mom, this already feels like a challenge. With Connor being sick this week I haven’t even made my extra meal and its only the first week!
I know this won’t be a simple task but I am following the promptings of a loving Heavenly Father who has told me that His daughters need each other.
Sometimes I feed my family cereal so if you get cereal one week, know that I was doing the best I could that day. Just kidding. I will honestly try my best to prepare something that is actual food and not bring you a box of cereal and a gallon of milk.
I don’t want to challenge you to join me in my goal of “52 Meals” because I feel like this is something that has been specifically asked of me. If you feel inspired, by all means join me, but if I could encourage you to do just three things I would ask this.
The first is to ASK for help. Remember the secret sauce I told you about earlier? I think it is worth repeating.
WE NEED EACH OTHER.
Together we are always better than we are alone.
Whether it is asking another mama to watch your kids for a few hours, help with organizing your house, cleaning (gasp!), a load of laundry, helping organize your day, help in your business or even to run an errand for you, just ask.
Don’t let shame, embarrassment or pride be a reason for not asking for help. We all have areas of weakness, things that we struggle with and even dark places we don’t often discuss.
Can’t get past those? Think of it this way.
By not allowing others to help you, you are stealing their joy. There is a warm fuzzy feeling that you can only get by serving others and if you don’t ever allow someone to help you, you are robbing them from using their gifts and feeling warm fuzzies. You don’t want to be that person do you?
Now that we have that settled, you may be thinking “but I don’t know how to ask for help.”
Think of one – just one – area where you feel like you could use help. Think of someone you know that has a strength in this area. And no, pinterest doesn’t count. Call up a friend (or text her because using a phone with kids is almost impossible) and say “You are so talented at organizing. Would you help me with my pantry one day?”
I promise you, you will not only flatter that mama, she will be happy and excited to help.
Got it? Good.
Now to number two. SERVE.
Offer another mama help. And don’t take no for an answer.
Think of the women you surround yourself with. What might they be struggling with today? It could be big, it could be small. Still not sure? Say a prayer and ask. God knows and I am pretty sure He will let you in on how you can help. This works every time. Trust me.
And last but not least, number three. SHARE.
Share with a friend how you are going to ask for help this week. Share with a friend that you are going to serve a friend this week. Share this blog post. Let’s make sure our fellow mamas all know our secret. We need each other remember?
Tomorrow is my first meal delivery and I am very excited. Except that I haven’t actually got the groceries yet but thanks to Amazon I will order those here shortly. So whether you want to follow along on this project or just want to gain a few extra meal ideas, I am glad you’re here and hope you will ASK, SERVE and SHARE this week.
Ps. I polled my Facebook friends and so many mamas said they would love to have a ‘breakfast’ item so this week I am making breakfast burritos that can be frozen and easily heated up for any meal. I borrowed this recipe for inspiration.